Tuesday, January 4, 2022

20 ways to become your mistress favourite client by Mistress Evilyne


Not all submissives are looking for the same things in their relationship with a professional Dominatrix. Some treat a visit to their Mistress like going to get a massage: in and out and see you next month. Others wish to find a deep and meaningful relationship and many others fall somewhere between the two. I have written this guide to help you navigate what can sometimes feel more like an obstacle course than a relationship. If you truly want to be more involved in your Mistress’s life and wish to gain her affections, read the following list carefully and take notes. Follow my guidance to realise your true potential and help your relationship with your service provider flourish. Many service providers have lifelong and meaningful relationships with their ‘special clients’.

I had some help from my good friend Madame Caramel who contributed a few points to this list. Please note that this list is written from our points of view and the 20 points listed below might not apply to all Mistresses. We are all different.

The guide to being the perfect client for a professional Dominatrix

The first rule of slave school. Remember that if you want to create anything long lasting, looks alone will not get you far. To build a meaningful and fulfilling relationship, you need two people with compatible interests and life views. When a mistress catches your eye for any reason, go digging on the internet. Find interviews, reviews, videos (please pay for them! Pirating our stuff is not supportive!) and study them to find out if you like what this person is about.

One of the hardest parts of being a professional Mistress is marketing. It’s so difficult to constantly self promote. One great way to be supportive of your service provider is to help to promote them online. You can do this by participating in forums dedicated to the fetishes she excels in and mentioning her, linking to her content, and basically advertising her. You can do the same on social media, writing admirative tweets about her, illustrated with flattering photos of her. You may not have a large social media following, but your tweets will look great when she retweets them, showing her followers how popular she is. Another truly amazing way to be of service is to offer to write your provider a review. Ask her where her favourite place for posting reviews is, or offer up some that she might not be aware of. Always ask before posting a review, as some sex workers prefer not to have reviews posted online.

Many sex workers make content to sell online. If your admired Mistress sells clips or runs a subscription service, subscribe! Buy her content! The best way you can support her is financially while also helping her boost her numbers through a service which ranks its content producers. By buying her clips you are helping her rank higher and be more visible.


I’m sorry to break it to you Hun, but if you only visit two or three times a year, you’re probably not in the favourites list. All relationships need feeding. If you only turn up at the change of the seasons, you’re not really coming across as invested in building something with her. If you are not able to visit as often as you would like or circumstances (like a pandemic) prevent you from doing so, book video calls or sessions or phone chats/sessions.


Relationships with sex workers seem really tricky because you are navigating a totally new landscape of boundaries, freedom and power dynamics. This relationship will be unlike any you have ever had before, and can easily become one of the most important and longest lasting relationships in your life. Here you have a person with whom you can be more vulnerable than with anyone else in your life, someone who understands intimacy and who enjoys making people feel good so much that she does it for a living. She can offer totally objective advice as she has no stakes in your life, no reason to look out for anyone but you. She will leave you the freedom to live your life as you choose to and not pry into your private life. She has a deep understanding of healthy boundaries and of human psychology which are two of the most important ingredients in a long and healthy relationship. She is sometimes even the person in your life with whom you end up having the deepest relationship, specifically because of her professional skills. And above all that, a service provider can also develop deep feelings for and connections with her clients.

However, one of the most crucial ingredients in making this relationship work and even flourish is also often one of the hardest pills to swallow. The thing that makes her so alluring, that keeps spice in the relationship, keeps it fresh and exciting after years, is Her Freedom. You need to accept that your Mistress accords you affection, attention and time, but will never belong to you. It’s her freedom from societal structures, from the blandness of everyday life and classic gender norms that makes her so appealing. She is a free spirit who has transcended societal expectations so as to live her truth, and you can never ever try to catch that in a jar. If held down she will wilt and die, but nurture and support her, encourage her freedom, and she will always fly back to you.
It’s very important never to have expectations of your relationship with your sex worker (in relationships in general too). If you go into it expecting for them to fall madly in love with you and pedal off into the sunset you will be sorely disappointed. This is a mutually beneficial relationship, almost like an agreement with stipulations. This won’t take away from the specialness of it, quite the opposite in fact. Setting clear boundaries is possibly the healthiest thing you can do in a relationship and is a key element in constructing something long term that is more deep and meaningful than a whirlwind romance.


Be warned, this list is not for self serving submissives. If you follow the instructions herein but your goals are for you to get what you want from the Mistress, you will fall flat on your nose. It very quickly becomes apparent when a submissive’s intentions are egocentric in nature. The key to true success is to approach your relationship with true care and commitment. Think of HER in your decisions. Pay attention to HER. Why? Because if you truly care about this woman, it is not by wanting her to yourself but by wanting her to thrive. True friendship.

I am here going to address a prevalent male trait which needs to be eradicated at all costs: The need for constant positive feedback. Don’t believe me? Read this amazing article by an exhausted wife, which tells a story EVERY woman on this planet is familiar with (reading this article by the way is a perfect example of the ‘doing research’ point. Dig deeper into me. Read links. Expand your understanding of my thoughts and opinions). Many a time has every Mistress had to deal with someone who supposedly wanted to spoil her but made the whole process so emotionally draining that it’s not even worth it. Do not be that sub. If you are going to do something for a Mistress, just do it. Don’t contacting her asking if you can do it, then when she says yes tell her you are doing it, then keep her updated on the trials and tribulations of getting it done before checking in constantly to confirm that it is appearing done on her end and then expecting time and attention from her after she has just had to micro manage you through the entire process. If you want to do something nice, just do it. It won’t go unnoticed.

This point is definitely a more personal one as I know many Mistress friends of mine love micro managing their slaves. I however have a certain preference for men who can take initiative. To me it shows that you pay attention. I am constantly putting clues out both as to my tastes and my aspirations. It doesn’t take long to find out all about me and my needs and desires. So keep your eyes and ears open and when you sense a need or desire within me, be right there, suggesting and offering. Be proactive and selfless. The most wonderful feeling in the world is to be surprised with exactly the thing you desire the most. I much prefer that than having to ask for it. Your attentions should be on your Mistress. If she is having to ask for things of you, are you really paying attention?

Nothing kills a relationship faster than finding out they lied to you. If there is something you don’t want your provider knowing about you, be honest and tell them this is the case rather than making up a lie (this is another example of setting healthy boundaries). Service providers understand the need for privacy and for keeping different areas of your life separate and any Mistress worth her weight in salt will be respectful of this.

It’s pretty basic knowledge that spoiling your Mistress is a sure fire way to get ahead but WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? You see #SpoilMe written all across the internet, but you’re paralysed, unable to work out the best way to do just that. Well as always, knowledge is power. Do you remember how in the ‘Do Your Research’ point, I described finding out as much as you can about your Mistress? Here is one of the areas of the relationship in which it becomes very useful. Firstly, think about your budget. If you don’t have much disposable income, thought and attentiveness definitely comes first. Pay attention to her favourite treats (whether bath products, food, or creams). Little gifts can have a huge impact if they are exactly the person’s favourite thing. I know that I love it whenever anyone buys me a Rose Jam shower gel or Ro’s Argan body conditioner from Lush. If you have a larger budget, then look at her wishlist and pay attention to the higher price items (especially ones that seem geared towards her home or business). Some of the best gifts I have ever received were filming lights and for my birthday this year one of my favourite subs (see? it works!) bought me a garden shed! Of course another great way to spoil your mistress if you have the means is with luxury goods, especially custom made fetish wear! Pay attention on her website and social media to her favourite fetish and lingerie brands and offer her a gift card for her favourite toy maker or designer, or even to finance a pair of custom boots or a custom outfit for her. And in the ‘helping her improve her life’ theme, think of spa days, courses she might enjoy attending, concert tickets and other experiences (memories and newly found skills take up no space in a cupboard and are memories for a lifetime).

Here is something I have come across again and again. Some submissives just go too far in their selflessness. I know this sounds crazy, but it is a thing. The most important thing about selflessness within your relationship with a dominant is that it must have its limits. If you put them first in absolutely everything all the time, you begin to neglect yourself. This can have a huge impact on your mental and physical well being as well as having severe ramifications within your life. I get told a lot by other Mistresses who know me that I am an incredibly giving person. I am always there for my friends (and that includes my submissives) when they need me, but within reason. Over the years, I have learnt to say “No!”. Before saying yes, before offering your service to someone, before jumping in to help, always take a moment to reflect on your own life, state of mind, finances etc and think ‘Am I able to handle this?’ and that doesn’t mean can I manage to barely hold my life together? It means how much is this going to cost you on all different levels? What impact is it going to have on you? Are you yourself in a place of strength and security from which you can offer support without it being a heavy burden to bear? If you take this approach to our relationship, you will show that you have a strong sense of self, which ultimately makes you a much more appealing person to have in one’s life. We all like being surrounded by solid people with a good sense of self worth, don’t we?

It’s lovely receiving gifts, it really is. You know what is even lovelier? Not worrying financially. A tip, or even a birthday gift of cash in an envelope or a nice bank transfer will be even more gratefully received than an expensive pair of shoes. Even better than spoiling us, fund our life.


Every relationship in our life works around the same principals. It’s an exchange. You get something out of it, they get something out of it. And every relationship in your life has a value on it. This value is rarely solely monetary. It is often a complicated mix of emotional, psychological, physical and other values. We exchange all these commodities, and the relationships where the exchange is balanced thrive and those where it is imbalanced wilt and decay. Your Mistress is very used to the concept of transactional relationships, in which a tangible value is put on an interaction and the building of a relationship. Although most of her clients pay only in money, there are those, like you, who seek and wish to offer more than a purely commercial arrangement.

Now here is the nitty gritty of it. At the end of the day, you are the client. Even after 5 years when your relationship far exceeds the merely session based one that it was at the beginning. You are still the client and your Mistress is also aware that if you chose to end it, end it would. Therefore it is up to you to put your right foot forward. You want more involvement? Start giving more and she will get the message and let you in more. Do you get it? You shouldn’t expect her to reach out to you. You Mistress doesn’t know your personal circumstances and has no business poking her nose into your life. If you want more out of your relationship with your chosen Mistress, it is up to you to start putting more on the table, being there for her, offering your services, spoiling her, and all the other things mentioned in this article. Showing tangible proof of how invested you are in the long term and how reliable you are will allow her to feel safe. If she feels safe she will be more willing to invest herself emotionally. Remember that every Mistress has been hurt many times by investing herself emotionally only to be let down. Any Mistress with a few years under her belt will be weary of showing any vulnerability for a while so show the proof in the pudding and give her the time to process.

Extended sessions (anywhere from 4 hours to a weekend away) give you time between the play for moments of getting to know each other, emotional intimacy, and also getting up to more normal activities together such as going out for dinner or to the theatre. If you are that guy who goes once every two weeks to see your Mistress for a quick in and out session, are you ever truly going to even scratch the surface of this magical mystical being of pain and pleasure?

The pet peeve of every Mistress is unpunctual clients. Do everything you can to always be perfectly on time. That alone can make you stand out.

Just as you have your own personal life, so does your Mistress. Part of what made you fall madly head over heels for her is the image that she has curated (likely over many years) which is specifically engineered towards a fantasy. Fantasy is exactly that. Do not pry into her personal life. She will open up to you as and when she desires and is perfectly within her rights to keep whatever she wants private about her life (this again is a healthy example of boundary setting) . She owes you nothing. Always remember that. And remember that part of the beauty of your relationship is that you both hold space for each other to be who you want to be and a part of that is fantasy.

When times are good, there are so many men in my life pledging their undying devotion to me, but whenever I hit hard times, I see those who truly care. It has happened to me before to give a long standing client the boot because they went on and on and on about how they were there for me and how I could always count on them and then within my time of need they were nowhere to be seen. You don’t have to pledge yourself like that. I have many adored clients who can’t commit themselves to me in that way and that is totally fine and in no way impacts our relationship. But conversely, those who have been there for me when I needed them and who have stood by their word have a special place in my heart. Why? Because I know that their affection for me is real, not just an infatuation. They truly care, and believe it or not, we sex workers also seek genuine human connection. So to recap: You don’t need to promise your unwavering loyalty to develop a good and strong relationship, but it definitely helps if you are there in her time of need, and being there counts for a LOT more than constantly talking about it. And if you ARE going to talk about it, make sure you follow through because the proof is in the pudding and until I see that pudding, it might as well not exist.

In relation to the point made just above, the worst thing you could ever do to your relationship with your Mistress is to disappear on her unannounced. Life circumstances may require you to take a step or two back from your relationship with her, but swallow your pride and be open. Write her an email explaining your circumstances and thanking her for everything she has done for you. Tell her that you will keep fond memories of her and maybe try to leave the door open for you to return if/when your circumstances permit.

The cherry on the cake? Send her a parting gift (whether cash or an actual gift). It’s the best way to really show her how much she means to you and to become a fond memory as opposed to another name added to the list of disappointments. Remember that we invest ourselves emotionally too. We are not immune to feelings. My heart has been broken again and again by adored clients disappearing in a cloud of smoke.


The perfect way to take your relationship with your Mistress to the next level and show her that you are not just committed to it but also to her well being and success is to take a look at your own skills and how they can be put to use in helping her succeed or improve her quality of life. Whether you are a carpenter, banker, lawyer, doctor, chef or mechanic, or if you have any other skills, tell her about them, discuss with her if she thinks you could be of any use and even offer up ideas she may not have thought of. Give yourself extra value by adding value to her life. We are all one woman businesses and any assistance we can get in real life matters is going to be of amazing help. I know you like being a footstool, but it won’t help make her life better in the long run. However, maybe if you are the one who sets her up with an investment fund or helps her secure that mortgage, she’ll be much more excited at having you as furniture.


What says “I really care” more than a long term commitment? And how do you prove your commitment? I think that the Sex Worker/Client equivalent of a marriage proposal is when the client offers to help with a long term financial investment like a mortgage or a car or an apartment rental or anything else which involves signing a contract for long term engagement. Sex workers are in a very sensitive grey area when it comes to finances. Although we pay our taxes, we are first of all self employed which comes with its many pitfalls (such as our post expense income often being very low due to the costs of running the business, thus leaving us incapable of even getting a lease without setting down 6 months up front) but also many institutions have rules and regulations that are very hard for us due to the cultural views of our work.
Offering to help your Mistress by co-signing on something like a rental could make a huge difference in her life, and if you can spare the money to support her in any way from helping her on a mortgage to taking on her phone bill, it will be so greatly appreciated and show her who she can truly depend on. It’s really the ultimate way to show her you care and you’re here for the long run. And trust me, in an industry where most of us experience an incredible lack of stability in our lives on a daily basis and can have our lives turned upside down in the blink of an eye (Like when you get caught up in a press scandal), commitment and dependability are two of the most precious things you can offer your Mistress.

Always keep in mind that her time is precious. As a self employed woman, her time is literally her living. At the end of the day, it’s all about transaction. Are you compensating her fairly or even (if you truly care) generously for her time? And I don’t just mean financially. All of the above tips count in this. So study them. Make yourself into an asset. Be your best self. You will see your relationship flourish, and with it so will the rest of your life. These attitudes will start to bleed into other relationships and will make those who surround you feel appreciated and so they will in return put more effort into their relationships with you.

I hope you enjoyed this guide and that it helps you improve your relationship with your Mistress. Mistresses please feel free to use his guide as an educational tool for your own clients. If you have thoughts or other suggestions that have worked for you, please leave them in the comments for future readers.

Thursday, September 2, 2021

Fighting Shame in BDSM: Fetishism By Gloria Brame, Ph.D., Board-certified sexologist

Mutually consensual fetishism is a normal part of the sexual spectrum. It can’t be cured. You can’t fix what isn’t broken.

A fetish is when you feel a powerful erotic response to something normally considered outside the realm of sex. Society, psychiatry, and the law have long treated fetishes as a type of psychopathy.
Is it? Let’s find out.
In this piece, I’m focusing on the myths that make fetishists question their needs. Fetishists are a world unto themselves, almost infinitely diverse in their specific interests. What unites them is the pain of feeling alone in their fetishes and being afraid that they’re freaks.


We don’t know. Sex scientists are still trying to piece it all together. I believe that one day we will find a genetic marker for kinks and fetishes.
Consider this enigma: even when they come from different backgrounds, religions, and nationalities, and without a common language, people who share the same fetishes can have ecstatic experiences together. Whether they were born in Peoria or Pakistan, people who share the same fetish will gravitate towards the same fetish porn and masturbate to the same fantasies.
From 30 years of research and experience, and particularly my private practice where I’ve worked with hundreds of fetishists, I have built an etiology of how fetishists sexually develop. 99% of my clients said they fit this model, so my theory may be proven out in the future.
Meanwhile, this is what I’ve got (the condensed version): first, we’re born with fetish tendencies. Then comes nurturing and exposure to things in early childhood. By adulthood, fetishists have well-defined erotic needs, which then develop further according to their life choices and opportunities.
The bottom line: maybe/probably a genetic marker, then childhood and adolescent sexual formation which makes them permanently lean into specific fetishes that become treasured aspects of their sexual imagination by the time they’re grown-up. As with all things sexual, fetish can become a sacred and beautiful act; or it can become a place of shame and self-hatred.

Stereotype: Fetishists are Weirdos


Traditional Narrative: Fetishists are sex-obsessed degenerates.

Facts: Think of all the lingerie shops out there. They didn’t get there by accident. Fetishists are everywhere.
Fetishists are your neighbors, friends, teachers, and pastors. (Trust me, I know.) The vast majority of them enjoy their kinks, live their lives, and don’t bother anyone.
Fetishism occurs in ordinary people, extraordinary people, and the neurodiverse. Not surprisingly, since fetishism is a universal human trait, it also occurs in people with poor impulse control and substance abuse issues. When it does, that can mean they’re at risk of doing inappropriate things.
Take Away: There are tens if not hundreds of millions of people with erotic fetishes who lead happy lives. Media tends to focus on the exceedingly small handful who commit harm to get outrage clicks.

Stereotype: Fetishists Can’t Love People as Much As They Love Their Fetish

Traditional Narrative: Fetishists don’t make true connections, they only use partners to play out their fantasies.
Facts: Fetish doesn’t turn a person mean, selfish, or closed-off to meaningful connection. Those traits are either there or they’re not. That said, I’ve heard many partners of fetishists say they feel like the 3d wheel in the relationship. Often, that’s because they have put their fetish partner in the position of choosing between them and their fetish.
Asking someone to sacrifice their inborn needs for the sake of love is, at best, a very big ask and, at worst, emotional hell for their partner.
Of COURSE, fetishists experience love. They particularly love those who do not demonize their fetish or make them feel ashamed of who they are inside. When someone mandates “it’s me or the fetish” they inflict a wound as deep as asking someone to give up their faith or their dreams to hang on to a relationship. The tragedy is that many fetishists try to do that out of love and respect for their families — and end up ruining their own lives by living in a state of self-denial and self-hatred.
Take Away: Fetishists are just as capable of love as anyone else. Their fetish is simply the most intensely pleasurable experience they can have in bed.

STEREOTYPE: Fetishism Must Be Cured

Traditional Narrative: Fetishists need shrinks to fix them.
Facts: Ah! That would mean so much business for me if it was true! But, nope, it’s baloney.
Fetishism is a normal part of the sexual spectrum. It can’t be cured. You can’t fix what isn’t broken. You simply can’t cure the needs and desires people are born with.
Anyone who says otherwise is trying to sell something.
At best, people can suppress those needs. That may leave them feeling like they’ve never really lived their lives to the fullest. That they’ve never had the ultimate ecstasy their minds and bodies need.

Take Away: Fetishists are as normal as anyone else.


Fetish clients laugh sometimes when I tell them, “Oh, yes, don’t worry, that’s normal for a fetishist.” No one ever told them they were normal before! I run my theories on fetish development by them, though, and they stop laughing and start gasping with happiness. They realize that they ARE normal — just kinky normal, not conformative normal. So I’m adding this bonus to illustrate my theory of Fetish development.

Brame’s Seven Stages of Sexual Development in Fetishists

Adapted and edited from The Truth About Sex: Vol 2.
1. In early childhood, they have innocent (non-sexual) but unusual (fascinated or excited) reactions to body parts, specific activities, or material objects.

2. In puberty, things that formerly intrigued them are becoming parts of their erotic imagination.

3. In their teens, fetish themes begin to pervade their private fantasies. If they masturbate, their fetish interest may center in their fantasies.

4. In young adulthood, it’s common for them to think that once they have intercourse or get married, the fetish will subside. Fortunately, more and more young adults understand these days that a fetish is a fixed part of their erotic imaginations– even if they remain ashamed or confused about it.

.5. In the “settling down years,” the choice of a partner will shape whether or not fetishists act on their desires. Some find partners who share or learn to love their partners’ fetishes; others marry people who are uncomfortable, even hostile, to the fetish; and the majority of people fall in between those two relationship paradigms.

6. By the age of full adult sexual maturity, the fetish is a fixture of their sexuality. If they can’t share it with their spouse or partner, they may secretly masturbate to fetish porn.

7. Post-Prime: the older BDSM/fetish people get, the greater their need for kink/fetish sex to feel fully alive. By this time, regardless of marital status or how ashamed they may feel inside, they feel driven to have the experiences they’ve craved their whole lives before they die.

Dr. Gloria Brame is an award-winning sex therapist and best-selling author. Contact her at gloria@gloriabrame.com

Sunday, December 13, 2020

A share What a Year My Journey and evolution in 2020


i paid to do a writing course in the beginning of the year which was only to start in April.

How do I write with this crisis and pandemic going on ?
I have no interest in anything at the moment ?

Specially when writing in itself is a challenge for me to do in the first place ?
To pin myself down and for my fingers to move across the keyboard and for the words to appear upon the screen in front of me.
Now this on top of all this as well.
Fuck it just fuck it.

Eyes gaze outside the grass needs to be cut the hedges and bushes require trimming 21 days to form a habit.
A new way of doing housework in the 20th century sterilizing the baby Buddha a spray bottle in my hand each morning
everything gets sprayed down knobs to surfaces to plugs to lights switches to floors to loo a two hour chore using jik/ bleach.
There a critter in the sky what ever you want to call it that turned my life upside down in a blink of an eye.

I’m glued to the news and media something I hardly paid attention to in the passed.
Having thoughts of oh my god I’m going to die there is an invisible germ that I cannot see.

How do I ground and centre myself in this experience?


I’m experiencing fear and anxiety in my sacral chakra stomach and then nausea at other times just tears in my eyes
at another times burst into tears which moves from base to heart chakra.
None of this is adding up search the internet to find some form of understanding to centre myself again..

There’s none.

This is all up to me I’m my own teacher .

It feels like i’ve stepped into some form of of sci -fi movie of sorts everyday feels like a Sunday and there this pause this silence all around me.
Days look so beautiful the sky so blue yet there something deadly in the air
Media creating fear anxiety and uncertainly inside of me again acknowledge the feeling inside my body of thank you body I get it and ground myself back into my root chakra and feet and off I go to cut the hedges mown the lawn taking in some rays in the process.
Yoga practice will have to be done later still walking circles around the writing, ill get there always do just doing the same old dance before I get there.

Hedges, tree, bushes get cut with the slasher it takes my mind of what going on around me and in the world at large all the people dying .
Days fly by very fast I’m in a blur of no thought process just observation mode to what going on all around me.
I’ve given up smoking I can no longer have the excuse of smoking is a coping mechanism as I’ve given up smoking in one of the most stress period of the 20 first century history.

Why am I watching the media when it does this to my energy system and makes me feel this way.
Surely I need my fucking head read or something to be fixated on all this at the moment and then all the conspiracy theory out there specially David Icke.
It feels like my energy been pulled and tugged in all different directions and fragmented and what am I feeding
my physical body with all these words that my eyes and mind is seeing and my body and emotions are re acting too.

How do I find my feet in this pandemic and drama ? How do I find my way back home to myself soul and source ?

How do I take back my own power again ?

Is this some huge practical theory lesson of note Divine ?wtf
We all being waiting as a semi conscious collective for this system to come to an end regarding lower vibration but like this ?

What’s been attacked is my root chakras ?
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As a collective Our physical bodies ?
Our place of safe and security gone in the world our physical bodies that we live in aren’t safe either. Our safety and security at root chakra gone ?

What’s the shadow aspect/ collective unconsciousness at the root chakra level ?
Fear, manipulation and control,

First Fear.. Fear of death.

Its the work i’ve done already I know im immortal its one thing to know as a semi awake human being its another to experience with an invisible critter around and a huge practical physical experience as a collective,conscious and a collective unconscious at root chakra level

One thing I know for sure is that I have to ground myself back into my physical body daily.

With the loss of my mother last year same time lines I was out of my physical body and felt that I wasn’t completed grounded my feet didn’t feel solid or firm on the ground it felt like one was floating that one wasnt connection to the earth and my life-guide intervened saying ground yourself to your physical body get fully presence.

So this time I knew that it was about grounding my light body/ soul / energy body to the physical plane which I did.

Except I was still feeling out of sorts mental wanting to make sense of everything.

From root to heart to throat chakra the same forms of attack implying to the emotions / feeling i am feeling inside my body
and which parts of my body im feeling these emotions in. .

root chakra fight or flight and flight weakens the immune system.

Yoga and meditations is all about breath work and connection with source and self the opening and expanding of the heart chakra the flow of oxygen through the whole physical body.

Im aware that our collective unconscious brother and sister don’t breath properly in the first place and my breath is actually my life force energy
that gives my body life.
Also perhaps it might be my beloved earth mother mother of all mothers going you fuckers I cant breath you suffocating me with the way
you lived upon my surface and expelled this germ virus critter from the lab in some form of purging way..

Oh well just know I got to get a grip on all this as i’ve been taken complete out of my comfort zone by this .

Enough thinking now, waking up the next morning with the thought process in my head of don’t lean on your own understanding.

Its about faith ,trust acceptance and surrender and that also about mental emotional surrender with the thought process of

Yoga changed to 12 pm every day noticing that the media starting to inflate things it becoming aware that one sentenced as a headline thinking
it something new to readb by click on link its the same article with the same info over again.

Same words over and over again health care system not ready for this, not enough ventilator no vaccine. Ok so no medicine for this !

Im sucking hard boil sweets like no tomorrow each day its a packet of sweets by the three day I realise my inner child is terrified and
that we going to die is my inner child letting me know that she fearful of this whole experience and I let her know that I will keep her safe and
protect her through this scary time and that I’m here for her.

I’ve learnt monkey mind can drive you crazy and your imagination starts to run away with you conjuring up the most
craziest of thoughts and images and realise that I have only the now and
that where my power lies in the now of where I am moment by moment.

Making a conscious choice as to where I choose to invest my energy daily using discernment regarding what news is real and what new is fake what’s been blown out of proportions and all the trigger words used to create panic fear and drama in the pandemic and containing my energy..

By calling my energy back from all the places I fragmented it from and staying in the now.
As when I’m in the now I’ve won and i’ve found my way back home as a semi awake human being.
That’s awake in this experience and can help my brothers and sisters find their way home energetically by sending
them love light and healing into the earth with my yoga practices and prayer.

To where ever it is need as a light workers and starseed to hold the light energetically in these times of chaos
as the phoenix rises from the ashes once more and not to allow fear to take the joy
out of life and my human experiences.


Tuesday, July 14, 2020

Webcam Sessions and How they work online ?

Hello all,


I trust that everyone is keeping well over these unprecedented times,
and finding new creative ways of sustaining themselves.
Mistress has moved to online session on Whats App’s and
is weekly online for two to three hour @
with folks asking

How do online sessions work?

Simply put an email or call is still required for an online session with Mistress.
your bdsm kinks and fetishes are discussed with Mistress and Mistress attains
as to whether you’re bdsm kinks
and fetishes can be Played out online for a session or not..
Creatively thinking outside the box is a Must for an online session.

Once your tribute reflect a day and time is arranged for your What App’s session.

At Sextrader cams the same process applies of calling Mistress booking your session and time
being ready with your toys for your session.

Buying your credit for the session that was discussed with Mistress of
15mins, 20mins,30mins, 45Mins, 60mins, sessions

Clicking on Mistress photo at sextrader cams that say Live

Clicking on the Mic Button Icon to hear Mistress on the left hand side of Private
and a pop up notification will appear

sextradercams.co.za want to use your mic allow click allow

Click on the on the Webcam icon to see Mistress on the left hand side of Private
the same pop up notification will appear

sextradercams.co.za want to use your camera allow click allow

Then click on PRIVATE To session with Mistress Gail Online
at sextradercams.co.za
and What App’s video you know how to utilize

Dominate Regards

Mistress Gail


Sunday, June 14, 2020

Sessions and Covid Safety Precautions


Two light blue germicidal UV lights and UV sterilisation lamps have been placed in the dungeon and shower area
killing viruses and sterilizing spaces within 15 mins.


On arrival your hands shoes will be sprayed with dettol water and temperature will be taken.
Once done you will take Mistress temperature before you enter the dungeon space.
Clothing will be hung in the usually space and session will commence as usually.
after session you are welcome to have a shower before leaving.

After you have left all the equipment used in the session will be wiped down with a wet wipe and then sprayed
down with strong dettol mixed with water.
The Blue uv lights are switched on to sterilize the equipment

Mistress fet gear is hung up in the sun after the session then its off for Mistress to gargle with salt water and shower
and return to the dungeon to turn the equipment used around for another half an hour.

The whole sterilization process takes an hour and half to do .

Mistress Gail