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Fear And The Submissive Mind

Many subs or the sub-curious contact me on SextPanther to discuss their fantasies and desire to book a session. It’s very common that it’s followed by, “I want to book a session so badly, but I’m scared!” This is the very reason why pro dommes have deposits in place, particularly for first timers. Fear makes otherwise dependable people turn into flakes. Fear can also suck out the fun from living as our true authentic selves. Not to mention, if you are so overcome with fear that it affects your ability to follow through, the idea of a session with you doesn’t sound like a fun time anymore.

There is no one answer or quick fix, but the common fears preventing subs from moving forward in realizing their fantasies revolve around the fear of the unknown. Sometimes knowing the cause of our fears and viewing the fear through a different lens helps us work through them and attain the human happiness we all crave and deserve. Let’s take a look at some of the causes. While some of this is aimed at submissive men, if you are female, trans or non-binary, you may find yourself with these very same concerns.

Fear 1:

“What if the Mistress does something that makes me feel really uncomfortable, pushes me to do something I’ll regret, or she hurts me really badly?”

This is a fear for a reason. I’ve heard all kinds of horror stories! This is why it’s important to think with the head on your shoulders and not in between your legs when researching a Mistress. Read her website and social media to see her experience level is, what her style is like, and if her style is compatible with what you’re looking to experience. Or arrange for a consultation session either via text, phone, video call, or in person to get to know her better before you commit. It’s also important to negotiate limits. There’s also no shame in starting off light. It’s always better to crave more for next time than excitedly agree to more than you can handle just because you were horny.

If you’re not sure of what you can or can’t handle, consider my “Beginner BDSM Sampler Platter” where I act as more of a friendly kinky guide than a slave training Mistress slowly seducing away your power.

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Fear 2:

“What if I like it? Then what?? How will it affect my dating relationships in the future or my current relationship?”

​If you are indeed submissive, then you should know that about yourself and give your submissive self the attention it deserves. You may find you don’t need BDSM play as much as you thought but if you find that you do, celebrate that newfound knowledge! And if you find that you do need it on a very regular basis and desire it within the context of a romantic partnership, just as you take inventory of yourself and what you have to offer a potential partner, you will now know what to factor into your list of requirements that you seek in a relationship. If you are currently partnered, it’s still worth finally finding out if this is indeed a part of your identity and finding a healthy way to nurture your submissive identity. You’d be surprised how many wives have had an open mind and discovered a new dominant side of themselves, or, decided to give dominating their husbands a try, realized it’s not for them, then flat out told their hubbies to book a session with a pro domme. Some subs prefer to keep it as a secret for themselves. That is something you will have to decide for yourself. I can’t tell you what’s right or wrong for you.

Fear 3:

“Will a Mistress actually be into playing with me? Will I disappoint her??”

Mother Nature instilled ego in man for a reason. Of course, there’s the untrained negative end of the male ego spectrum which manifests through thoughtless, self-centered, and uncompromising behaviors. However, on the positive end is the natural desire to please paired with the need to know that you did a job well done. If you did your research and found a compatible Mistress, as long as you are polite, thoughtful, and follow her commands to the best of your ability, no doubt she will be very pleased with you. She may express that by bragging about you on Twitter, or if she’s more low-key (or not a social media person), her satisfaction will be expressed with a smile, a “good boy” (or girl), a reward, or simply allowing you to see her in the future. And when your efforts are appreciated, remember that it’s not to feed your ego, but to appreciate and encourage you. Don’t let it go to your head. ;-)

Fear 4:

“What if I like it so much that I want to do it all the time??”

Mostly what happens is that a first timer will be so thrilled that they finally tried it out and can finally start to embrace themselves. Then they can figure out a healthy balance for themselves. For some who had a lot of repressed submissive feelings, they had to go on a mini splurge to balance themselves out. Imagine being in a country that didn’t have your favorite dessert, then coming back home after ten years. You’d probably run straight to the bakery and pig out for a week or two, then your pastry starved self would be satisfied, and the cravings will calm down.

In the same way, the desire to submit does eventually calm down to less frequency, and you’ll find your balance of how often you should session. Some subs find their balance is a once-a-year birthday gift of self-care. Others quarterly or monthly, or even more if their finances and schedules allow. I find it’s better to set a realistic schedule (and what works with your budget) rather than try to go too long and deny yourself. How often have we seen dieters try to cut out all sugar or carbs forever? They end up failing and developing unhealthy relationships with food.

I don’t subscribe to the idea of submission (or dominance for that matter) being “naughty”, “a treat”, “indulgent”, or any other negative word. Your submissiveness should be embraced and nurtured in a safe space with someone whom you can trust and accepts who you are. That way you can dive right into submission without any fears.

i paid to do a writing course in the beginning of the year which was only to start in April.

How do I write with this crisis and pandemic going on ?
I have no interest in anything at the moment ?

Specially when writing in itself is a challenge for me to do in the first place ?
To pin myself down and for my fingers to move across the keyboard and for the words to appear upon the screen in front of me.
Now this on top of all this as well.
Fuck it just fuck it.

Eyes gaze outside the grass needs to be cut the hedges and bushes require trimming 21 days to form a habit.
A new way of doing housework in the 20th century sterilizing the baby Buddha a spray bottle in my hand each morning
everything gets sprayed down knobs to surfaces to plugs to lights switches to floors to loo a two hour chore using jik/ bleach.
There a critter in the sky what ever you want to call it that turned my life upside down in a blink of an eye.

I’m glued to the news and media something I hardly paid attention to in the passed.
Having thoughts of oh my god I’m going to die there is an invisible germ that I cannot see.

How do I ground and centre myself in this experience?

I’m experiencing fear and anxiety in my sacral chakra stomach and then nausea at other times just tears in my eyes
at another times burst into tears which moves from base to heart chakra.
None of this is adding up search the internet to find some form of understanding to centre myself again..

There’s none.

This is all up to me I’m my own teacher .

It feels like i’ve stepped into some form of of sci -fi movie of sorts everyday feels like a Sunday and there this pause this silence all around me.
Days look so beautiful the sky so blue yet there something deadly in the air
Media creating fear anxiety and uncertainly inside of me again acknowledge the feeling inside my body of thank you body I get it and ground myself back into my root chakra and feet and off I go to cut the hedges mown the lawn taking in some rays in the process.
Yoga practice will have to be done later still walking circles around the writing, ill get there always do just doing the same old dance before I get there.

Hedges, tree, bushes get cut with the slasher it takes my mind of what going on around me and in the world at large all the people dying .
Days fly by very fast I’m in a blur of no thought process just observation mode to what going on all around me.
I’ve given up smoking I can no longer have the excuse of smoking is a coping mechanism as I’ve given up smoking in one of the most stress period of the 20 first century history.

Why am I watching the media when it does this to my energy system and makes me feel this way.
Surely I need my fucking head read or something to be fixated on all this at the moment and then all the conspiracy theory out there specially David Icke.
It feels like my energy been pulled and tugged in all different directions and fragmented and what am I feeding
my physical body with all these words that my eyes and mind is seeing and my body and emotions are re acting too.

How do I find my feet in this pandemic and drama ? How do I find my way back home to myself soul and source ?

How do I take back my own power again ?

Is this some huge practical theory lesson of note Divine ?wtf
We all being waiting as a semi conscious collective for this system to come to an end regarding lower vibration but like this ?

What’s been attacked is my root chakras ?
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As a collective Our physical bodies ?
Our place of safe and security gone in the world our physical bodies that we live in aren’t safe either. Our safety and security at root chakra gone ?

What’s the shadow aspect/ collective unconsciousness at the root chakra level ?
Fear, manipulation and control,

First Fear.. Fear of death.

Its the work i’ve done already I know im immortal its one thing to know as a semi awake human being its another to experience with an invisible critter around and a huge practical physical experience as a collective,conscious and a collective unconscious at root chakra level

One thing I know for sure is that I have to ground myself back into my physical body daily.

With the loss of my mother last year same time lines I was out of my physical body and felt that I wasn’t completed grounded my feet didn’t feel solid or firm on the ground it felt like one was floating that one wasnt connection to the earth and my life-guide intervened saying ground yourself to your physical body get fully presence.

So this time I knew that it was about grounding my light body/ soul / energy body to the physical plane which I did.

Except I was still feeling out of sorts mental wanting to make sense of everything.

From root to heart to throat chakra the same forms of attack implying to the emotions / feeling i am feeling inside my body
and which parts of my body im feeling these emotions in. .

root chakra fight or flight and flight weakens the immune system.

Yoga and meditations is all about breath work and connection with source and self the opening and expanding of the heart chakra the flow of oxygen through the whole physical body.

Im aware that our collective unconscious brother and sister don’t breath properly in the first place and my breath is actually my life force energy
that gives my body life.
Also perhaps it might be my beloved earth mother mother of all mothers going you fuckers I cant breath you suffocating me with the way
you lived upon my surface and expelled this germ virus critter from the lab in some form of purging way..

Oh well just know I got to get a grip on all this as i’ve been taken complete out of my comfort zone by this .

Enough thinking now, waking up the next morning with the thought process in my head of don’t lean on your own understanding.

Its about faith ,trust acceptance and surrender and that also about mental emotional surrender with the thought process of
IT IS WHAT IT IS FOR NOW.

Yoga changed to 12 pm every day noticing that the media starting to inflate things it becoming aware that one sentenced as a headline thinking
it something new to readb by click on link its the same article with the same info over again.

Same words over and over again health care system not ready for this, not enough ventilator no vaccine. Ok so no medicine for this !

Im sucking hard boil sweets like no tomorrow each day its a packet of sweets by the three day I realise my inner child is terrified and
that we going to die is my inner child letting me know that she fearful of this whole experience and I let her know that I will keep her safe and
protect her through this scary time and that I’m here for her.

I’ve learnt monkey mind can drive you crazy and your imagination starts to run away with you conjuring up the most
craziest of thoughts and images and realise that I have only the now and
that where my power lies in the now of where I am moment by moment.

Making a conscious choice as to where I choose to invest my energy daily using discernment regarding what news is real and what new is fake what’s been blown out of proportions and all the trigger words used to create panic fear and drama in the pandemic and containing my energy..

By calling my energy back from all the places I fragmented it from and staying in the now.
As when I’m in the now I’ve won and i’ve found my way back home as a semi awake human being.
That’s awake in this experience and can help my brothers and sisters find their way home energetically by sending
them love light and healing into the earth with my yoga practices and prayer.

To where ever it is need as a light workers and starseed to hold the light energetically in these times of chaos
as the phoenix rises from the ashes once more and not to allow fear to take the joy
out of life and my human experiences.

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Hello all,

I trust that everyone is keeping well over these unprecedented times,
and finding new creative ways of sustaining themselves.
Mistress has moved to online session on Whats App’s and
is weekly online for two to three hour @
https://sextradercams.co.za/Mistress-Gail
with folks asking

How do online sessions work?

Simply put an email or call is still required for an online session with Mistress.
your bdsm kinks and fetishes are discussed with Mistress and Mistress attains
as to whether you’re bdsm kinks
and fetishes can be Played out online for a session or not..
Creatively thinking outside the box is a Must for an online session.

Once your tribute reflect a day and time is arranged for your What App’s session.

At Sextrader cams the same process applies of calling Mistress booking your session and time
being ready with your toys for your session.

Buying your credit for the session that was discussed with Mistress of
15mins, 20mins,30mins, 45Mins, 60mins, sessions

Clicking on Mistress photo at sextrader cams that say Live

Clicking on the Mic Button Icon to hear Mistress on the left hand side of Private
and a pop up notification will appear

sextradercams.co.za want to use your mic allow click allow

Click on the on the Webcam icon to see Mistress on the left hand side of Private
the same pop up notification will appear
sextradercams.co.za want to use your camera allow click allow

Then click on PRIVATE To session with Mistress Gail Online
at sextradercams.co.za
and What App’s video you know how to utilize

Dominate Regards

Mistress Gail

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