Friday, August 12, 2016

Nine degrees of submission. Something to ponder and reflect upon !

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WHICH ONE ARE YOU?

The Nine Degrees of Submission are important to understand. Like
any other relationship, there are boundaries. Think of the straight
people you know.

Sometimes the man rules the roost.Other times it’s the woman.
But most always, one has a little more power than the other.
It varies from couple to couple. So why is it that most
gay and lesbian men and women expect our relationships to be
completely 50/50? No other group is.

Naturally, all humans have it programmed in their heads to be either Dominate or submissive
on some level or another.
Obviously, if you’re reading this, you don’t fall into the vanilla category, but you may not
fall into the most extreme one either. I urge you to read and understand each level and find where you fit in.

Also remember, just because today you fit into say level 3, after proper training you may find you are level 7.

1. THE KINKY SENSUALIST - The kinky sensualist is not a trained sub. There
is no servitude, humiliation or giving up control. This level is just “spiced up
sensuality”. This is the first step beyond vanilla.

2. PSEUDO SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE – The Pseudo Submissive Non-Slave is not
even into “playing” slave but into other submissive role-playing such as school
teacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation inter-
action to a large degree.

3. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE – The Pseudo-Submissive Play Slave likes
to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; might, in some cases, like to
feel one is being “used” to gratify partner. May even really serve the dominant in
some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the interaction to a large
degree.

4.TRUE SUBMISSIVE - NON SLAVE –The True Submissive, Non-Slave really gives up
control (though only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits),
but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission, other than serving or being used by the dominant.
Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility.
Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly his/her own direct pleasure
(rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing dominant).

5. SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE – The Submissive Play Slave really gives up control
(though only temporarily, within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving
dominant – but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May or may not be into pain.
If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys partner’s pleasure, on which the
submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.

6. UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE – This slave
really gives up control (usually within limits). Wants to serve and be enslaved by the
dominant; wants to provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but
only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say,
several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of agreed
upon several days). May or may not have long term relationship. Either way, the
“slave” has the final say over when he will serve.

7. PART-TIME CONSENSUAL, BUT REAL SLAVE – This slave has an ongoing
commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant’s
property at all times. Wants to obey and please dominant in all aspects of life,
practical/non-erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments
(e.g. job, kids) but dominant has first pick of the slave’s free time. This is a live-in
arrangement.

8. FULL TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE – Within no more that an few broad limits/
requirements, the slave regards himself as existing solely for the Dom’s pleasure/well
being. Slave expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from
the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave’s
position is more likely to be fully consensual. Within the S/M world, a full time slave
“arrangement” is entered into with explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that
is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more
awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements.

9. CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS– This is a common fantasy ideal.
Probably doesn’t exist in real life (accept in authoritarian religious cults and other
situations where the consent is induced by social or economic pressures, and hence
isn’t fully consensual). A few SM purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless
you’re willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom, with no limits. This is the most
difficult level to achieve, however; it is the most common fantasy. One would be required
to cut off contact with his previous live including friends and family.

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Thursday, August 11, 2016

An interesting site that Mistress just found recently. The History and study of caning paddling, birching, strapping, slippering, spanking, flogging) throughout the world, in history and in the present day.

http://www.corpun.com/index.htm

This is an independent, non-profit, factual website devoted to the study of corporal punishment (e.g. caning, paddling, birching, strapping, slippering, spanking, flogging) throughout the world, in history and in the present day.

Its main purpose is to provide objective information and background about this social and cultural phenomenon which has been a significant part of life for thousands of years.

It is NOT designed to promote particular opinions about corporal punishment. It is NOT part of any campaign for or against anything. It has no connection with any organisation. Nor is it an interactive forum for on-line debate on the issue (there are plenty of those elsewhere).

As to whether corporal punishment is a good thing or a bad thing, readers must make up their own minds, but please don’t write to me about it.

There is also an expanding selection of video clips.

Spanking has different meanings in British and US English. In UK usage it has hitherto referred only to smacking the recipient’s bottom with the open hand. It certainly could not be used to mean paddling or caning or using any other kind of implement to deliver the punishment. In North American English, however, it is so used, and can refer to more or less any kind of CP. The American meaning is now beginning to seep into some British/European usage, but texts written by me will stick to the traditional British definition except where they are part of an article entirely about American CP.

Note however that “whacking” can mean different things in other parts of the world. For instance, when Singapore schoolboys talk about whacking, they are referring to beating each other up in fights; they do not use it to refer to school CP, which they always describe as caning.

Abbreviations. The one abbreviation used constantly throughout this site is CP, for corporal punishment. “JCP” means judicial corporal punishment. “SCP”, for school corporal punishment, has been glimpsed elsewhere on the internet but does not yet seem to have caught on, and is not much used here.

It should also be noted that the punishment cane used in British Commonwealth and European schools is/was always a thin, flexible one (typically of rattan). The modern use (especially in American English) of the word “cane” to mean a thick, rigid stick such as a walking stick (as in “white cane” for the blind, “candy cane”, etc.) seems to be leading some people to have the wrong idea about the nature of caning as a punishment.

The slipper is often a misnomer. A slippering in a UK school was sometimes a very informal and even jocular affair, but could equally be a punishment of the “semi-formal but unofficial” kind — in some cases as painful an ordeal as a caning, and in many schools a good deal more common than official canings. It was actually inflicted, more often than not, with a large tennis shoe or gymshoe, a much weightier implement than the domestic carpet slipper. The latter was mostly used parentally in the home.

Whipping was traditionally the word used in British legal texts to refer to judicial corporal punishment. It continued to be so used until JCP was abolished, even though the instrument used had long ceased to be a whip. In Britain itself, after about 1850, it usually in fact meant birching, and a distinction is sometimes drawn between “whipping” (with a birch) and “flogging” (with a cat). In countries of the former British Empire, “whipping” in legal texts usually means JCP with whatever is the local instrument — often a cane, as in Malaysia and several African countries. Singapore is unusual in having substituted the word “caning” for “whipping” in its more recent legislation.

A reformatory here means any residential institution for young offenders, whether or not the word forms part of its official name. Unfortunately, in some North American contexts, particularly in Canada, it sometimes seems to mean a prison for (young) adults. These latter are counted as prisons for the purposes of this site.

Readers should also note the peculiarly opaque term “Approved School” from 1933 onwards in the UK; these were always officially described as not being reformatories (I think this was because they were “open” and not secure, i.e. it was easy to abscond from them), but for all practical purposes that is exactly what they were, not schools.

Also, in a number of countries, including Britain and Canada, it can sometimes be difficult to discuss Prison CP separately from Judicial CP because the judicial CP (or anyway some of it) was carried out in prisons under the same regulations as the prison CP.

Countries. Much of the information on the site is organised by country. As a general rule, for the sake of simplicity I have used the present-day names of countries even where the items concerned date from a time when the country was called something else. This won’t always work for historical material from places where boundaries have substantially changed (Poland) or where a present-day country was once part of some other country that itself still exists (Ireland/UK; Pakistan/India). I have judged each such case on its merits and tried to follow the dictates of common sense.

Jurisdictions. In the case of fully federal countries like the USA, Canada, Malaysia, Australia or Germany, I have categorised news items under those names rather than under individual states or provinces, even if the individual states are for many purposes separate legal jurisdictions. However, where there is a lot of material and it seems particularly appropriate — as in the US school handbook pages, and certain information in the Country Files section — I have subdivided it by individual state. This is not always entirely satisfactory, but life is never perfect.

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